Things Don't Happen for a Reason
Have you ever heard someone say "Everything happens for a reason" after they or you have experienced something disappointing, unwanted or even traumatic?
Well, that statement is just not true. Not everything happens for a reason.
Sometimes terrible things just happen, and there's no good reason for it. Sometimes, things just suck. And, that's okay. Disappointment and struggle are a part of life. We all experience it.
Some things can never be fully understood (especially traumas), and that is okay too.
So, what is the truth then?
💡 Things don't always happen to you for a reason, but you can find meaning and purpose from what life throws at you if you want to make reason for it.
If you're in a healthy place, searching for meaning behind a traumatic event or experience can sometimes be cathartic, healing and supportive. However, it's very important to ensure you're in a healthy place before you begin searching for meaning.
Proceed with Caution:
If you do search for meaning, and do so too soon after the trauma has occurred, it can actually deepen the pain you're experiencing. So, be sure to proceed with caution!
Before searching for meaning, ask yourself these questions:
When I think about the trauma, does it feel intense or overwhelming?
If yes, take a break! If no, proceed to the next question.
Would discovering a reason for the trauma occurring bring me a sense of relief?
If no, take a break! If yes, proceed to the next question.
Would I be comfortable journaling about the trauma or speaking about it with a coach/therapist to help me discover meaning and purpose from it happening?
If no, take a break! If yes, go for it!
Don't skip a step, take your time, and make sure to reach out for support if you would benefit from talking to a professional. You don't need to go through this alone. ❤️
When it comes to trauma that relates to a disability, I've got your back. And if I may not be able to support you, I can recommend you to a therapist or mental health professional who will be able to support you.
You're not alone. It's normal to experience trauma.
And know this: I believe in you. Take your time. I've got your back.
Sending love,
Charlie